He's a Picasso

It's been raining the past few days here, with snow dusting the tops of the mountains and the clouds sitting low and looking like ballet tutus, and the wind blowing just enough to make you regret wearing your light jacket instead of the wool pea coat. In other words, it's Man Weather. The type of weather where you need a man to offer his sweatshirt and ever so slyly place his arm around your shoulders to "keep you warm". Teeheehee.

The problem, however, is finding a man that you actually want touching you. It's fairly easy to weed out the Absolutely-Under-No-Circumstances-Ever-Will-That-Weirdo-Ever-Come-Near-Me types. The second step is far more fun: sorting out the Potentials and the Picassos.

It recently came to my attention that, although girls understand the concept, they've never had a name for the Picassos. The purpose of today's post is to elaborate-mostly because I'm bored and couldn't think of anything better to do.

When the rest of the world thinks of "A Picasso" they think of something like this:

"A Picasso" for the purposes of this blog looks something more like this:

When I look at an actual Picasso painting, I can enjoy the aesthetic beauty of the art, but never would I actually want it hanging in my house. Too much drama, too much maintenance, too much risk.

Same with men. Some are fun to look at. You can enjoy the aesthetic beauty of a work of art, but you don't want it in your life. Too much drama, too much maintenance, too much risk.

I find this concept comes in quite handy when I happen to mention in the presence of other women that a particular person is "good looking". They invariably assume I mean "I'm in love". But if I can say he's "an enjoyable Picasso", they will nod in agreement....and the best part is men will all be wondering what the heck we're talking about.

Found these quotations and thought they were so fan-ta-bulous I just had to share:

“Sadly, the signals that allow men and women to find the partners who most please them are scrambled by...insecurity...A woman who is self-conscious can't relax to let her sensuality come into play. If she is hungry she will be tense. If she is "done up" she will be on the alert for her reflection in his eyes. If she is ashamed of her body, its movement will be stilled. If she does not feel entitled to claim attention, she will not demand that airspace to shine in. If his field of vision has been boxed in by "beauty"--a box continually shrinking--he simply will not see her, his real love, standing right before him.” 
― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty are Used Against Women

“If the difference between guys and men is still unclear, here are a few examples that apply to dating:

A guy uses women to build his self-esteem. A man already has it.
A guy likes to "hang out" with a woman he's interested in. A man asks her out.
A guy doesn't make a move until he's sure there's no risk. A man is bold and clear with his intentions.
A guy plays games with a woman. A man has no time for games because they keep him from getting to know the woman.
A guy will become bitter and angry with a woman when she denies him. A man accepts that dating involves risk.
A guy fears and worships women. A man respects and adores them but fears and worships only God.
Guys are cool and indifferent. Men are hot and passionate.” 
― Stephen W. Simpson, What Women Wish You Knew about Dating: A Single Guy's Guide to Romantic Relationships

The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer--because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement.” 
― Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

I'm sure I don't need to explain which depot my train of thought was currently stationed at when I stumbled across these and thought to myself, 'These are fantastic.' Always nice to discover that the problem does not lie with you, that the problem is that you are (apparently) surrounded by guys who are spineless cowards. ;)